Rant - Grids

Why is it so hard to use a GridView?
I have spent 2 weeks writing an app and it is fine.
I have spent 1 week of this time trying to find out how to either
a) set column widths for an autogenerated GridView
or
b) find the column widths that have been automatically generated.

The only thing that is stopping the app going live is the B**dy GridView.
It is a really basic thing to want to do, why is it impossible?
I have asked here and on Framework.ASPNet with no solution.
When will MS produce a half decent Grid (Winforms or Webforms)?


Guy